Have you ever felt like you’re always in the wrong, no matter what you do? Do you find yourself constantly questioning your own worth, especially around certain people in your life? If this sounds familiar, you might be dealing with a narcissist. But don’t worry—you’re not alone, and more importantly, it’s not your fault.

Narcissists have a way of making you feel like you’re the problem. Their need to always be right, to always come out on top, can leave you feeling small and insignificant over time. But here’s the good news: there are signs you can spot early on that will help you recognize a narcissist before they have too much of a hold on you.

First things first, let’s get clear on what a narcissist is. A narcissist is someone who thrives on being right, even if that means making you wrong in the process. They’ll often say things like, “I’m always right,” or “I know better than everyone else.” And for them to be right, someone else—usually you—has to be wrong. This mindset isn’t just annoying; it’s damaging.

Living or working with a narcissist is tough, but growing up with one is even harder. Imagine being a child and constantly hearing that you’re not good enough, that you’re stupid, or even worse, that you’re the reason everything is going wrong. That kind of environment can leave deep scars. But here’s the thing: none of that is about you. It’s all about them and their need to feel superior.

Now, if you’re thinking, “Okay, but what do I do if I’m stuck with a narcissist?”—you’re not alone in that thought. The reality is that leaving isn’t always an option, especially if you’re dealing with a narcissistic parent or partner and there are financial or familial ties involved. But even if you can’t physically leave, you can start to leave emotionally. You can stop letting their words and actions get to you.

One powerful idea is this: don’t let it in. When a narcissist throws their criticism or blame your way, let it go over your head. Remember, their behavior is a reflection of their unhappiness, not your worth. Happy people don’t spend their time tearing others down. So when a narcissist criticizes you, know that it’s more about them than it is about you.

If you can leave a narcissistic relationship, do it. There are billions of people in the world, and you deserve to be around those who lift you up, not tear you down. If leaving isn’t possible right now, start planning for a future where it is. And in the meantime, protect your mental and emotional space.

The truth is, narcissists are never satisfied, no matter how much you try to change yourself to meet their impossible standards. So stop jumping through their hoops. Your time and energy are better spent on things that actually make you happy.

Remember, the power to change your life is in your hands. You may not be able to change the narcissist, but you can change how you react to them. Decide today that you won’t let their words or actions define you. Instead, focus on what makes you feel good, and surround yourself with people who see and appreciate your worth.

You deserve a life filled with respect, love, and happiness. Don’t let a narcissist tell you otherwise.